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Nonviolent Change Change initiatives, and their generally bigger cousins “change programmes”, almost always involve fear, obligation, guilt and shame. And start from a position of coercive violence. Here’s a typical posture I’ve seen time and again in the context of organisational change both large and small: “The company needs to make some changes to become …

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Nonviolent Employment Since I’ve begun looking back on past experiences through the lens of Nonviolent Communication, I have come to see this philosophy as permeating many of the policies and decisions with which I’ve been involved over the years. I’ve written most recently about a needs-based approach to managing projects, and the congruence of that …

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Nonviolent Project Management Some eighteen years ago now, I started using a technique I named “Stakeholders and their Needs” – as part of my approach to managing software development projects. I’ve found it a useful enough technique to continue using and evolving it on just about every endeavour I’ve worked on since then. Aside 1: …

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Nonviolent Conferencing OK, not so many Agile or business conferences end up in a brawl or other such overt violence. But I have been at several conferences where violent language was rife. In any case, this post is not about that. It’s about the use of the principles of nonviolent communication in making better conferences. …

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Nonviolent Programming The idea of Linguistic Relativity has been around since at least the Eighteenth Century. Many folks may have heard of the (misnomerous) Sapir-Whorf Hypothesis. In a nutshell, Linguistic Relativity suggests that language influences the way we humans think. ‘Whorfianism of the third kind’ proposes that language is ‘a key to culture’. Setting aside the Rightshifting …

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That’s a Great Idea But… We’ve all experienced it. Someone comes up with a great idea for doing something different, and better. Everyone agrees it’s a great idea, and better. And yet nothing happens. Nada. Zip. How to explain this near-universal phenomenon? Loss Aversion I choose to looks at the phenomenon in terms of loss …

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Fundamentals of Organisational Psychotherapy By popular demand, I’ve put together this post, which sets out some of the fundamentals of Organisational Psychotherapy (n.b. by no means all of them). Note: This is a work in progress: I keenly invite your comments and questions. Fundamental: The Nature of the Problem The Marshall Model proposes that organisational …

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Difficult Conversations Before this turns into a mini-series, I’d just like to add one observation to my previous two posts. Setting aside the outcomes sought by the people that matter, outcomes related to the business and its needs, there’s the not inconsequential matter of the unexpressed outcomes sought by these folks with respect to their …

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Testbash Dublin and Organisational Psychotherapy As I mentioned in my previous post, I’m just back from presenting an interactive session on Organisational Psychotherapy at Testbash Dublin. Some folks seemed confused as to the relevance of Organisational Psychotherapy to testers and the world of testing, so I’m happy to explain the connection as I see it. (And …

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Testbash Dublin I’m just back from presenting an interactive session at Testbash Dublin. I enjoyed conversations on the topic of the session – Organisational Psychotherapy – as well as conversations around e.g. #NoTesting. Indeed, I noted a common theme running through many of the sessions from the more seasoned testers presenting: a grumbling low-key disaffection …

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NVC In The Workplace For five weeks now, Miki Kashtan of Bay Area NVC, one of the leading lights of the Nonviolent Communication movement, has been publishing (via email) an excellent mini-series about nonviolent communication and collaboration in the workplace. I’ve been finding her words to be full of widom, compassion, and highly actionable advice. For …

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A Rose By Any Other Name Unless that name was something like “stinkwort”? No matter. I digress. Choosing the Antimatter Name Many’s the occasion I’ve related my reasons for choosing the name “Antimatter Principle“. Some are listed in my post explaining the metaphor.  It seems though that I’ve never actually written down the prima facie reason. First There …

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