Holding The Space
You may have noticed that the title of this blog is “Think Different”. Some kind folks over the years have remarked upon the insightfulness of one or more of my posts. Some have gone so far as to ask me whether and when I might be holding a workshop, conference, or other such event on the topics touched-on in this blog.
Well, the time has come and October 7 is the day. This first one day event is titled “The Think Different Experience”. Maybe it’s even the first in a series. We’ll see how it goes.
From my perspective, I feel happy to share in exploring what thinking different means, how to go about it – deliberately and intentionally – and the value it offers to individuals and organisations both.
I work with many folks, and often I get the impression that everyone’s so busy, busy thinking inside their own little boxes that they rarely have any opportunity or, indeed, inclination to spend some time on reflection, introspection and thinking outside their regular tramlines.
I’ve created the Think Different Experience event to afford some time (a day) and some space (Nutfield Priory hotel) for some interested folks (max 10) to come together and explore what Thinking Differently might mean for us.
With this event, I see my role first and foremost being to “hold a space” which – in itself – has some value for the folks participating. This is not too far from the the idea which inspired Falling Blossoms some fifteen years ago:
*One day, in a mood of sublime emptiness, Subhuti was resting underneath a tree when flowers began to fall about him.
“We are praising you for your discourse on emptiness,” the gods whispered to Subhuti.
“But I have not spoken of emptiness,” replied Subhuti.
“You have not spoken of emptiness, we have not heard emptiness,” responded the gods.
“This is the true emptiness.”
The blossoms showered upon Subhuti as rain.
The Outcome Is In Your Hands
The event will stand or fall on the quality of your participation. Do you feel happy about that, and about the opportunity to contribute to the joy and well-being of not only yourself but your fellow participants?
Don’t Come Along If
There are some aspects to the event which may cause some folks a bit of grief. So, in the spirit of fair warning, don’t come if:
- You want to be spoon-fed ideas
I’d describe my hopes regarding facilitating this event as “pull-driven”. That is to say, folks will be invited to pull ideas, feelings, and – ultimately – value from myself and the other folks present. Don’t expect – or hope for – others to “push” ideas at you (although that may happen, inadvertently, now and again).
- You want to sit back and let others create your meaning for you
I have some hopes that the folks attending will want to participate actively in exploring and creating their own meaning, and in creating shared meaning too. We’ll see how that goes.
- You have fixed ideas and assumptions which serve you well enough that you have no wish to examine them, or consider possible alternatives
I suspect some awkward questions might get asked,. and some tricky subjects – undiscussable to some, at least in their regular workplaces – might come up.
- All your needs – in work and in life – are presently being well-met
According to the precepts of e.g. Nonviolent Communication, every human being has needs, needs which each person is trying to get met the best way they know how. Sadly, many folks have chosen means to getting their need met which, by their own terms of reference, carry some pernicious or negative side-effects. Or even, sometimes, have chosen means which actively work against getting those needs met – even though they feel like the best or only means available to the person employing them.
Do Come Along If
- You want to experience a different kind of event.
- You’re curious about the value of play, therapy, Bohm dialogue – and similar principles underpinning the event.
- You’re keen to spend time in the company of like-minded people (I can’t guarantee just how like-minded folks are going to be, though <wry smile>).
What you might come away with
It’s my hope that we all come away from the event with some of our respective needs having been met. This might include:
- Meaningful connections – with self and with each other a.k.a. “fellowship”.
- Play – “Do nothing that isn’t play”.
- Ideas and pointers for getting one’s needs better met (i.e. alternative strategies / means).
- An appreciation of the bigger picture – whatever that is.
- An opportunity to be more human – however you may define that.
For what it’s worth, I share Marshall Rosenberg’s definition of “being more human”:
“Connecting with what’s alive in others and ourselves.”
Would you like to be part of that?